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Posting a profile without an essay.
You may be drop dead gorgeous, but there must be more to you than a photo. Say something about yourself. After all, your profile is an expression of who you are. You don't want people to think you're lazy, empty or have nothing to say.

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Posting a generic profile.
Too many people post a six-line profile with generic phrases like "down to earth," "fairly good looking," "and good sense of humor." This doesn't inspire people to respond because they have nothing to identify with. Avoid using terms that can apply to anyone. Think it through; don't be afraid to be specific and creative in expressing what makes you unique.

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Using "personals" jargon.
Never use impersonal jargon like "SWM seeks SWF" or "D&D Free." This isn't a personals ad, it's a profile. You have the space to write something meaningful and impress someone with your thoughtful eloquence.

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Selecting "Any" or "All".
There is no such thing as being politically correct when defining the characteristics of your ideal date. This is the one place where having discriminating tastes is perfectly acceptable. It's okay if you only date tall people, Republicans, and red-heads with tattoos or you want to live in a beach house. Feel free to indicate that you dislike smokers, body piercing, vegetarians and don't want children. Dating search engines depend on specifics. How can a dating site find your perfect match if "any" or "all" will do? Besides, your ideal date may think you don't know what you really want and pass you by. He or she is looking to see if "you have selected me!"

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Posting a profile without a photo.
Profiles with photo get about 10 times more responses. People want to see who they are talking to. Maybe you're lazy, not technically inclined or just don't want to be recognized. With dating sites allowing up to 25 photos we predict the day is soon coming when you won't get a response without one. In fact, our e-dating experts don't recommend responding to anyone who refuses to post or send a photo.

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Posting old photos.
You want someone to fall in love with you for who you really are, not for who you used to be. Even if you look in the mirror and think, "I haven't changed much," others will notice the grey hair, spare tire or crows feet and feel betrayed.

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Posting photo's with a former lover.
Never use photos with the opposite sex, or the half-torn photo of you with someone's arm around your neck. Even if it's your sister or brother, it's a turn off.

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Attitude, ego and bragging.
"Everyone notices I'm extremely attractive," "I have a great body, like an underwear model," "I like my toys. Maybe I could take you for a spin on my motorcycle, my cigar boat or with the top down in my Porsche." Everyone should be proud of their accomplishments, but bragging is a bore. Modesty is the hallmark of people who are secure in themselves. Most people want to fall in love with a person, not a package.

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Using "baggage statements" in your profile or e-mail responses.
"I recently went through a bitter divorce but it's over. I live in an apartment with a roommate for now, and am considering a career change. I only visit my kids every second weekend. I'm looking to enjoy life and have laughs with someone who can communicate without yelling and who respects other people's point of view." Remember: On-line dating is not therapy. E-dating experts wants to see you put your heart on the line, when you're ready. This level of honesty can be too painful to read.

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Focusing on what you "don't want" rather than attracting what you do want.
"I don't want a woman who is shallow, dyes her hair, or has breast implants." "Aggressive women and gold-diggers need not apply." "I don't want a guy who's so serious he can't laugh at himself, or can't pass a mirror without combing his hair.".Can anyone guess what your "ex" is like? These statements are way to negative to be attractive